When talking about weddings, people tend to visualize big, splashy affairs multi-course menus, decked out ballrooms, and hundreds of guests. But with more people approaching things from a more practical standpoint, weddings are starting to become smaller, more intimate affairs that you can remember for its heartwarming moments rather than for the impressive decor. And what can be more intimate and special than getting married at home?
Whether it’s to serve as the backdrop for your ceremony and reception, or just the reception, holding your wedding at home has its own set of considerations that you should discuss before deciding on to ensure that your dreamy intimate wedding doesn’t morph into a wedding nightmare that will keep you up at night.
Size of your Home vs. Number of Guests
The first and most important thing to consider is the size of your home and backyard with respect to the number of your guests. Not everyone has a manor house an expansive garden to house your family, friends, and acquaintances. On the other hand, even a smallish party of thirty guests may not comfortably fit in a tiny home. This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t opt for a home wedding at all. It simply means that you have to be creative about your available space, rearranging or having some of your furniture stored elsewhere.
Your at home wedding doesn’t even have to strictly be at your own home. If you have family and friends with larger space who don’t mind gifting you with a venue for your wedding, by all means, do so. A large barn can be just as charming as a mansion, with the added benefit of having the party spillover to adjacent farmland.
While the classic full sit-down meal is always an option, an at home wedding gives you the flexibility to opt for other dining options that might not be available or appropriate at standard wedding reception venues. Let your home and personalities inspire your dining options. If your wedding is mostly outdoor, turn it into a fancy backyard barbecue where everyone can just help themselves to what’s available as they mill about and interact with other guests. Or, you can opt for a family-style weekend brunch where you have great big platters of food at each table that gets passed around between guests. You don’t even have to go for a full meal. If you and your partner are big on sweets, go for a big dessert buffet with tea sandwiches and savory pastries on the side.
Don’t think that just because it’s at home, you have to do everything yourself. Ask for help when you need it and don’t hesitate about hiring professionals to do things they’re good at. To give you less things to worry about on the day itself, get a wedding coordinator on board to help you figure out things you may not think of yourself. Waitstaff will help things flow smoother during the event itself and will ensure that dirty dishes and glasses are cleared and kept out of sight. Valet parkers can help maximize parking space. Having professional cleaners do a run through of your house before and after the event will leave you free to do things you really want to do, like the DIY decorating ideas you’ve pinned on Pinterest.
Restrooms for Rent
Because regular homes aren’t built to cater to large crowds needing to use the restroom at the same time, it is a good idea to rent portable restrooms or restroom trailers for your wedding. Before you cringe at the idea of making your guests use a porta-potty, know that today’s portable restrooms have leveled up. Think flush toilets, marble-topped counters and sinks with running water, mirrors, lighting, and even bathroom decor.
Weddings at home can be quite demanding, but if you can learn to take things in stride and stop panicking when things don’t go as planned, it can be liberating and extra memorable. The most important thing to note is that it’s the first day of your new life. What better way to spend it than at home? After all, home is definitely where the heart is.